Social Anxiety – What is it?
Everyone’s heard of Anxiety. There’s plenty of brilliant bloggers out there speaking about the subject right now. But what about Social Anxiety? Not alot gets said about this type of anxiety, so I thought I would do a post on it and all of the things to look out for.
I suffer from Social Anxiety and I believe it stems from bullying. I’ve had it since I left school, but im constantly trying to find new ways to tackle the issue and to make it a bit easier for myself.
Social Anxiety should never be confused with shyness, it’s so much more than that and as a result it can affect your life in many different ways. I find it hard to speak on the phone to people I don’t know, most of the time I will avoid it by either texting or emailing, because thats what makes me feel comfortable. If I’m on a bus eating something, I will be very aware of people around me and what they are thinking of me, for examply I’ll think that they think I’m a pig or I’m eating too loudly.
I find it hard to make friends at times. I think when I’m talking to people that they figure me to be a bumbling mess of a person and that everyone may very well hate me. It’s hard to make people understand. I don’t take criticism well because I will sit there and overthink it for hours, it will literally go round and round for hours.
But alas, enough about me! I’ve put together a little list below listing some of the most common effects from this anxiety;
- An awful feeling of dread in meeting new people
- Panicking about 1st time phone calls with people
- Fear of being criticised
- Little desire to do everyday tasks, for example shopping with friends or eating out with friends
- Low self – esteem
- Avoiding eye to eye contact
Obviously not all of these will happen to everyone, but even if you suffer from maybe a couple then know that someone will always be there to talk to. There is a lot of people out there who suffer with this and it’s not just something that should be swept under the rug.
Over time I have forced myself into situations that I maybe wasn’t comfortable with before. However my mind still works with the sense of “these people don’t like you, you will always be that girl you were as a child” and I wish to god that I could find a way so that I didn’t think that way anymore.
I hope that this post was somewhat useful and that it can help a few more people. Would love to hear your thoughts on this, so please leave comments below and if you ever need to talk you know where to find me. We’re all in this together.