Bullying – But what about the after effects

We always hear so much about bullying. Lets face it, it is everywhere. It happens at school, college, uni, work, even sometimes in your own home. Whilst every aspect of bullying is horrific you don’t hear about the after effects. What actually happens to someone once the bullying has stopped?

The short answer to this is everything happens; yes the bullying has stopped, but like with many a thing it has years and years of consequence for us victims. At the time the bullies will just be thinking of themselves and how big it seems to make them feel whilst making us feel small in every way possible, what they don’t realise is that they are setting us up for years upon years of self esteem issues.

So what exactly can happen after years of bullying;

  • Low confidence – Bullying can take away any confidence that we ever had and its a tough haul to get that back.
  • Thinking less of yourself – You’ve been teased about how you look for years at school and now you’re left feeling very self concious of yourself
  • Hard to make friends – Because who can you trust when it comes to friends?
  • Anxiety issues – To the point where some people don’t want to leave their house in fear of bumping into a bully.

 

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For myself bullying has left me with social anxiety and low self asteem. But I work hard everyday to make myself better, I refuse to let my past dictate my future just because a group of people many years ago had nothing better to do than to make a kind child’s life hell. People do not understand the effects it can have and this needs to change, people need to be made more aware.

If you’ve been bullied before and you’re suffering from the after effects; you will get through it. You are better than they ever will be and even though it hurts now it can healed. Believe in yourself and slay the world….you got this I promise.

Claire xoxo

7 Comments

  1. demibees

    January 27, 2017 at 3:21 pm

    This is a great post! I was bullied when I was in school and it affected my confidence and self esteem. I’m so grateful now that I have worked through those insecurities and I have people in my life who love me for who I am. Thank you again for this post! πŸ™‚

    1. thatmummarocks

      February 1, 2017 at 8:24 pm

      I’m so glad it’s helped you, thank you for reading x

  2. Jordanne | Thelifeofaglasgowgirl

    January 29, 2017 at 2:57 pm

    Great post Claire! It’s so true, there are after effect that people don’t think about. I constantly still think about what I went through and second guess myself all the time with my weight and appearance.

    Jordanne || Thelifeofaglasgowgirl.co.uk

    1. thatmummarocks

      February 1, 2017 at 8:24 pm

      Thank you my lovely and thank you reading x

  3. TheOriginalPhoenix

    February 7, 2017 at 2:32 pm

    Yeah I can relate to the lose self esteem. I also had trouble making real friends for a while after I was bullied. It never gets completely better, but it’s good enough eventually.

  4. CiaraTone

    April 2, 2017 at 5:32 pm

    Such an important blog post and probably a hard one to share with everyone but well done for doing it because you never know who it might help.This was a really important topic to share,well done again πŸ™‚ http://www.ciaratoneweb.wordpress.com

    1. thatmummarocks

      April 21, 2017 at 10:03 am

      Thank you and thanks for reading x

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