Being Nice Gets You Nowhere

First off if you were expecting a positive post today than I apologise because this isn’t it. This is pretty much a raw, emotional and honest post.

For anyone that follows me on Twitter or follows my blog you will know that I am a supportive and positive person. I can’t do enough for people. But I think what people need to realise is that even though I’m positive and supportive; I kind of need that too. I spend my free time talking to alot of people, trying to cheer them up, trying to be there and make them feel maybe a little better, so why is it that I don’t get it back?

Like what is wrong with me?!! Is it because I’m drama free, therefore making me bland and boring, because I wish I knew. Not knowing is part of whats been upsetting me. I’ve spent years trying so bloody hard to move on from the bullying and get my self worth back up to a level that I’m happy with, only to be left with doubt about what it is I’m doing wrong.

People going all quieter on me then before…I mean what is all that about, if you have a problem talk to me, it’s much more cruel to just act differently towards me rather than do the sensible thing and talk. Support is a powerful thing and all I seem to do is dish it out, which is fine, thats who I am; but when you don’t get that back from people, that hurts..I’m not a give to receive kind of person but come on I’m human too!! People need to stay level headed and not let their massive increase of followers get to their head, because I’ll tell you something darling, you started out in the same place as we all did and if being a mean girl makes you feel better with your life then you crack on, just know that it can hurt people in the process.

One other thing about why being nice gets you nowhere. I class alot of people as friends (maybe I shouldn’t but that’s who I am), now imagine when that doesn’t get returned, when you are not classed as a friend, because I’m nice it crushes me. My husband would obviously tell me ‘Claire, they don’t matter , don’t let them get you down’ while he is clearly correct on every level, I care. I’m a fool for caring about some issue that clearly means nothing to the other person. I’ve probably come to terms with the fact that this is exactly how my life will be for years to come.

This post isn’t aimed at anyone in particular, this is just a general thing based around things that I’ve experienced recently.

Honestly, I wish I wasn’t nice – it brings hurt, tears and heartache and most of all it feels like it gets you nowhere.

Claire xoxo

3 Comments

  1. demibees

    February 6, 2017 at 8:36 pm

    Claire, I think you are awesome! I can send you a tweet and you reply back with no problem and you are always sweet and sincere. I can definitely relate to your post but you know what, keep doing what you are doing. Keep being the nice and sincere person that you are. I want you to know that you are appreciated. Stay Sweet Love!

  2. Jordanne | Thelifeofaglasgowgirl

    February 19, 2017 at 3:29 pm

    I LOVE YOU AND I KNOW KATIE DOES AND THIS COMMENT REQUIRES CAPITALS BECAUSE OH MY GOD PLEASE DON’T FEEL ALONE! YOU KNOW I’M HERE FOR YOU BECAUSE I CARE. YOU’RE SUCH AN AMAZING PERSON! YOU’RE KIND, LOVELY, BEAUTIFUL AND EVERYTHING ELSE I BETWEEN.

    But I know how it feels lovely 🙁 it can be horrible and leave you feeling deflated, it happens so often in the online world now though and you never know who’s saying what behind your back 🙁 it can be cruel.

    But just know, I’m a Skype call away now, a text, a message (but WhatsApp it text is definetly better for me because I’m terrible at twitter ahaha) but I am always here for you. Xxxxxxxx

    Jordanne || Thelifeofaglasgowgirl.co.uk

    1. thatmummarocks

      February 19, 2017 at 7:15 pm

      Are you trying to make my eyes leak? Lol, thank you so much though girl, this means a lot to me. I’m very lucky to have you and Katie there for me! Can you tell I was having a bad day when I wrote this post? Lol, felt much better for getting it all out though.

      Love you back ❤️

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