The Joy Of Long Distance Friendship
Well hello you beautiful people. So last night I was having a slightly emotional evening, not emotional in the bad kind, this was for sure in a good way. I was emotional because I realised how blessed I am with friendship, yes I have friends in the *real world* but I am even more blessed with long distance friends, friends that I have made through blogging. Today I wanted to make it all about them!
There is a great thing in this world and it is called social media, ok maybe not so great at times but great in the part that im gonna talk about. Social media has millions of people on its sites and if you spend enough time on there then chances are you’ve made a friendship through it. I can hear people now yelling at me *yeah yeah Claire, how on earth can you be friends with someone you’ve never met* well let me tell you this buster, you must certainly can!
For people who can be shy, have anxiety or even suffer from being insecure due to bullying; social media can be an escape for many and having just one person there at the end of a message can really matter alot. In the blogging universe we have twitter chats, these chats are an opportunity for all of us bloggers to come together, to meet new people and to spread the word about our blogs and it is during these chats that some people can meet some of their bestest friends and not only do these people become friends but they become a kind of family unit. You begin to support that person in every way you possibly can, you write to them, you skype them and all the while there is a niggling feeling inside…you realise just how much you need to meet this person in the real world and you can just imagine how awesome that day would be!
I should say at this point that no one should ever be made to feel like their not your real friends because you’ve never met them, I can’t begin to describe how wrong that is. People struggle to make friends in the real world, some people like me can be awkward as hell and for those of us who are and those of us who have been let down so many times by real world friendships, these friendships mean the absolute world.
My Long Distance Friendships
Clearly I had to talk about my own long distance friendships! I have many many friends online and I love each one dearly, but if you know me then your know that there are two girls who are very dear to me and it all began over pot noodles and a food chat!
About a year ago now I was fairly new to the blogging/twitter scene and so I’d heard about these Chats that would happen so of course I had to join one and funny enough the one I joined was a food chat…classic Claire, of course it was about food…its you! Whilst the chat was ongoing I started chatting to two girls, now these girls knew each other already but I was very much welcomed by both of them, by the end of the chat I felt like I was on a high because for the first time ever no one had looked at me and decided not to talk to me, people actually wanted to talk to me and seemed really intrested in what I had to say. Anyway fast forward and I had started talking to these girls every other day just about random stuff really and just supporting each others accounts and blogs.
So lets now fast forward again to around April/May and I got to Skype with these girls, as soon as they appeared on the screen I freaked out, in fact I think we all did! Here I was face to face (through a screen) talking to these girls who had become great friends to me and I have to admit I got kind of emotional at the time because as great as it was seeing them there was one thing seperating us. I was in Kent and they were both in Glasgow.
After that Skype call I was asked to become a part of a very successful Twitter account called Bloggers Tribea and from there on out we have always been there for each other. We laugh together, we cry together and we work well with each other.
Jordanne and Katie may live up the other end of the country from me but they mean the world to me and I know that I only need to message them and they are there in almost an instant. You see I don’t need to know these girls in the real world because I know that our friendship is strong enough to not have to see each other every day or every week.
Im hoping that next year is the big moment when we all meet and when we do all meet im sure there will be tears, hugs and food, but I also know it will be one of the best days ever.
So heres to Long Distance Friendship embrace it, look after it and enjoy every damn moment of having these amazing people in your life.