No-one should be alone at Christmas

Today I wanted to do a post that isn’t necessarily a negative post but more so a subject I feel that needs to be spoken about around Christmas.

Most of us are fortunate enough to be surrounded by a loving family and friends, lucky enough to have a roof over our heads but their are people out there who don’t have any of these or have one and just not the other. We all see December and Christmas as this wonderful time of the year which is spent with all our loved ones, imagine that you had no loved ones or no roof over your head and you had to spend Christmas Day alone. Just think about it for a moment. Think about how lonely these people must be, spending Christmas Day on the street or sitting down in your house on your own with no-one to share a Christmas Dinner with.

Just writing this post out now makes me feel really sad and emotional because thinking about one of my family members just sat there alone on Christmas Day breaks my heart.

Nearly Homeless at Christmas

5 years ago in 2012 me and Andy were making plans for our wedding, we were to get married in September and as stressful as it was we were all pretty excited for it, that was until 4 weeks before the wedding. I was having a meeting with my wedding planner when there was a knock at the front door, it was my landlady. She wanted her house back and we had 2 months to find somewhere else to live. I won’t get into details but at around that time we had very little money and we were really struggling and now we were being thrown out of our home.

The wedding went by and we enjoyed it, but that looming cloud of having to find a house for us to live in was getting darker and darker. Estate agents wanted a ridiculous amount of money from us which we couldn’t afford and we were due to be evicted at Christmas. As it got closer and closer I began to feel like a failure, it was nearly Christmas and my kids would have no home, but then something happened, the council rang and we were the first on the priority list for a property. The terms were that we had to accept whatever they gave us but at this point I just wanted a roof over my children’s heads. In December 2012 we moved into a flat and the council had saved our Christmas and saved us from being homeless. You see sometimes Homelessness isn’t a choice, sometimes being homeless is the only option especially if the Council see’s that you made yourself intentionally homeless

The Elderly and Single People

Being elderly can sometimes bring on loneliness at Christmas, you would not believe the amount of elderly people who spend Christmas Day alone and the same goes for single people, especially single parents because most of the time one parent will have the kids one Christmas and then the next you won’t, you end up finding yourself alone. For the majority of people they have family around but for some they don’t have family about for whatever reason.

What can we do to help?

The first thing we can do is talk to people who we know are alone. I myself hate to think of people I love to be alone at Christmas because it’s horrible and I will always extend an invitation to a seat at my table for Christmas dinner, as for people you don’t know? Do some research for them, find out if there is any groups that are arranging mass Christmas get together for people who are alone or there might be someone else that is going to be alone, why not suggest they meet? As for the homeless, Salvation Army always has kitchens running at Church’s or Centre’s where the homeless can have a Christmas dinner, even better go out for a 10 minute walk on Christmas Day and just have a talk to one of them…talking to someone else for 5 minutes could bring a little sunshine to a lonely day.

If you’d like to read last year’s Day 6 you can find that here

2 Comments

  1. Zoe Jackson

    December 6, 2017 at 9:59 pm

    This is beautiful! I’ll be honest and say I cried a little, it’s definitely something we need to be a lot more aware of at Christmas, I couldn’t imagine what it would feel like being homeless at Christmas or alone during this time, which makes me grateful for every thing I have but your post have motivated me to reach out this year to help those who may be alone this time of year! xx

  2. Katie

    December 6, 2017 at 10:23 pm

    Okay this post is definitely one of those ones that needs to be talked about! It broke my heart earlier – I was on the phone with my Granny. She has 3 children, each with their own kids (so her grandchildren) and since she had more than 2 grandchildren she’s moved between the houses on a rota. This year is her year with us – we’ve said that since last Christmas. But because no one officially invited her, she told me on the phone today she was going to stay on her own for Christmas. This woman is 87 years old, 3 kids, 6 grandchildren, and *still* managed to feel alone because no one actually asked her to be involved in their Christmas. That killed me – not only did it kill me that she felt she wasn’t wanted, but also that she felt she needed to be invited to our house. Sorry for the mini rant, but I wanted to highlight that loneliness doesn’t always mean having no one. I’m sure nearly everyone knows the feeling of being in a crowded room and yet feeling more alone than ever – this is another kind of being alone at Christmas we need to remember and help with where possible!

    Great post hun 💖 and I’m so sorry to hear about your own housing issues. Thank goodness it was all sorted for you, but horrible that that could happen to you!

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